Saturday, January 17, 2009

Death at the Doorstep


"Lake Havasu City, AZ - 36-year-old Matt Gandy, of Lake Havasu City, was discovered shot to death at approximately 5:41 p.m. at the front door of a residence on the 3200 block of Bluegrass Drive. Gandy had apparently suffered multiple gunshot wounds, according to police.

"According to witnesses, Ronald Trevor McGrew, 36, of Lake Havasu City, shot Gandy then fled the scene of the crime by vehicle after the shooting.

"Police located McGrew’s vehicle at his residence on the 3200 block of Osborn Drive at approximately 6:15 p.m. Thursday. Officers secured the multi-family complex area to contain the situation. The LHCPD SWAT team and negotiators initiated several attempts to contact McGrew with repeated telephones calls to the residence, use of a police bullhorn and other means. The attempts for contact were without success.

"At approximately 11:30 p.m. Thursday, the SWAT team entered the residence and discovered McGrew deceased from an apparent self-inflicted gunshot wound."


From havasunews.com...

39 comments:

  1. His heart was broken, so he shot himself in the heart. He was only temporarily insane but filled with sad rage by losing his wife and his livelihood. He took a man's life for his own life would be in vain for someone who gets to move on and still live a wonderful life. This was easily avoidable had all parties been true to themselves and others. Rest in Peace, and peace to all who loved Trevor.

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  2. It's sad that Trevor couln't deal with his own demons. Just because Trevor may have had a broken heart does not mean you take another life. It is very selfish that he took himself away from his daughter. That is why we live in a world today where you can get help to do deal. There are so many ways to get help. Killing is not an option. People have broken heats everyday that does not mean you take it upon yourself to kill and leave the families to deal with the aftermath.

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  3. R.I.P. Trev...What a way 2 go out my friend..even though we had our bad times..I will greatly miss them elf ears and that lil shit grin that you had everytime we saw each other..and how can i 4get the ANNIE.... that u always called me...The only thing that saddens me is the fact that you have left behind a beautful young son thats so talented in so many different areas...that you never cared to be a part of up until the day you passed on thru 2 the other side...lol..Josh McGrew and myself were around way b4 suzanne and shay....unfortunately we had to hear of trevors passing thru child support services...as of 2day by mail none the less....My ????? to Suzanne McGrew is why no phone call to me about tevors passing? who cares about how he passed..have alays respected your child...but apparently you iddny feel the same towards mine...Any ??? i have no reason to be annonymous...Tat2dstnrchc@hotmail if you want to contact me....

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  4. Apparently Trev had no support system..which really saddens us..Trev supposedly had a loving wife????????Yeah right....where....And for those of you that think hes selfish for taking his own life,well your selfish for not being a better support system!Trevs demons go way back not just recent occurrences.As for Josh McGrew Trevors 1st son...has anyone bothered to think what his outtake is on his fathers passing...Well I have been in contact and you people have no idea what a great son Trevor has..To think Trevor had a son on a backburner for years leaves me puzzled...why we all will never know..God Bless You Trevor...You're in a better place now...

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  5. Hi Annie, well as far as Trevor's first son goes I'm sure he has some kind of talent somewhere. I don't know what world you live in but it wasn't Trevors. There was a reason he had no relationship with his son and I will state the facts here. Number one there was never a paternity test done to be 100% that Josh was Trevors child and you know that for a fact number two he couldn't stand you Annie because if he did he would have contacted you but instead he ran as far from you as he could.Hmmm lets think about that Annie. You just want everyone to think you were so close to Trevor but you know the real truth in your heart so don't try to make yourself look like an angel. You should look at your past seems a little shady to me. Get a life woman and a job and take care of your son. Maybe you should try to be a mom first. Trevor acknowledged his wife and real daughter and was very happy but had a disease that he could not control on his own. Trevor is resting in peace. And as far as you not being contacted about this tragedy you were never part of this family weather you like it or not. The truth hurts but its reality Annie.

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  6. Annie the reality of it all is you were never apart of Trevors life you were just a one night stand.And you think Josh is his son were's the test to prove it who knows Josh looks more like his daughter if anything.You should not bag on Susy cause if it was not for her Trevor would of never seen Josh she pushed for that so get your fucking story straight lady.Reality hurts

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  7. Tat2d STONER Chick!!! Wow! What a great example you set for YOUR son! Another example of this so called "friend" on Trevors is that she not only had a ONE night stand with him when he was 17...but it happened to be in the back seat of a car parked outside of a BAR!!! You found out about Trevor's passing through S.S. because that was the only means of communication you had with him! Again, no proof that Josh "McGrew" is even his child! And you want to talk about support system?? Trevor had nothing BUT support and love from his friends~ especially when he started drinking again when YOU & YOUR faggatt ass son came back into his life!!! You want him to Rest in Peace?? I suggest you stop pretending that you had a relationship with him and quit hasseling the people he loved & MOVE ON!!!

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  8. I met Trevor in 1990. I was 17 just off the jet from Florida living in Newport Beach. Lovin it right? Well, It was super hard to meet friends. We came from two differnt coasts "worlds".
    I was at a store and Trevor was making a phone call. He looked at me and asked for a ride to the beach, just down the street. I had my board and wetsuit in y car, we grabed his gear and were best buds surfing til dark that day! Nobody takes in a total out of towner FL guy in Cal like that. He introduced me to California properly. I will never forget what a cool thing that was. He would tell the boys I ripped at surfing and tell the girls I was the guy. Sounds like whatever now, but when your 17 living in the center of it all and dont know a soul, its HUGE! RIP brother Love, JG

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  9. Trevor was an amazing husband, dad, and friend. So loving and nice..know one could ever forget him.Now he is in a better place know.Friends and Family will miss him deeply.RIP love you trevor

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  10. I'm glad he took his life. He took the life of another man a father now his little girl has to grow up with a father all because he wasn't man enough to deal with his own problems.

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    1. Trevor was my next door neighbour. He truly was a nice, decent guy. He did not deserve the heartache he endured by Matt and Suzy's indescretions. No one won in this situation...... Matt was not the only "victim" here; Trevor was, too, and so are all who knew them. Rest Peacefully and Blessed Be, Trevor. You are missed. ♥

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  11. This is the first I've read anything about the monster that murdered someone that I love so very much. Perpective is interesting and some time has passed now. So glad that we didn't have to endure a murder trial for this bastard. Thank you for taking yourself out and saving us the anguish of ever having to see your pathetic face.

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    1. Have you ever opened a dictionary? A "Bastard" is a child born out of wedlock, such as the one borne unto you and Matt Gandy. Words to use to define Trevor? "Kind; Sweet; Good-Natured; Nice; Gentle; Friendly; Faithful; Honest; Down-To-Earth......Heartbroken; Devastated; Hurt; Lost" Trevor was not a monster, nor was he pathetic; if you want to see pathetic, look in the mirror.

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    2. BTW, Matt quite obviously did not love you as much as you loved him, otherwise he would not have been screwing another woman. And either right around the time you were due to give birth, or shortly after you had, no less!

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  12. I've got Matt's Class of 1989 yearbook. Even though I only spent my second semester as a senior in 89, I remember the good times partying with Matt. Wouldn't mind having a beer with him right now.

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  13. Shut the hell up none you even know him. You dont know what was going on under his roof. Dont call him a bastard you DONT KNOW HIM.He was sick and had a disease.He wasnt a monster he was a wonderful husband and father and was loved so dearly and he will never be forgotten.And will never be known has a monster.

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    1. Although Trevor lived right next door to me, we were not so much friends as we were acquaintences, but I would like to think that I knew him well enough to say the things (in reply) that I have above. ("Trevor was my next door neighbour. He truly was a nice, decent guy. He did not deserve the heartache he endured by Matt and Suzy's indescretions. No one won in this situation...... Matt was not the only "victim" here; Trevor was, too, and so are all who knew them. Rest Peacefully and Blessed Be, Trevor. You are missed. ♥" -AND- "Have you ever opened a dictionary? A 'Bastard' is a child born out of wedlock, such as the one borne unto you and Matt Gandy. Words to use to define Trevor? "Kind; Sweet; Good-Natured; Nice; Gentle; Friendly; Faithful; Honest; Down-To-Earth...... Heartbroken; Devastated; Hurt; Lost." Trevor was not a monster, nor was he pathetic; if you want to see pathetic, look in the mirror.")

      Trevor did not deserve to suffer the pain and heartache delivered unto him. I hope you sleep peacefully, Trevor. Blessed Be. ♥

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    2. Wow what a tweeker,go to bed get your facts right!you did not really knew him dumd ass!!

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  14. It's time to move on.

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  15. Trevor McGrew we miss you!
    You wiil always be in are Hearts and we love you dearly. I'll be Poundn' Beers and Droppn' Gears thinking about you brother!

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  16. Fuck all you people Trevor was the coolest guy i have ever known in my entire life.

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  17. Anne your son is gay

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  18. rest in peace trevor

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  19. WHY DID TREVOR KILL MATT?

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  20. Maybe obession, rage ,a person snaps into violence is a total surprise,wich there is a psychological build up,alcohol,drugs.Maybe anger this often goes hand in hand with drinking,or drug use.If someone has some sort of a mental problem which they cannot be responsible for their actions.Shame a man felt it was ok to kill another man whatever was going on, step up to the plate move on.Hopefully family and friends on all sides can grieve and heal through this tragedy.All it makes is gossip.And there is no excuse for murder because of jealousy.

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  21. It really is such a tragedy what happened. Trevor must have had some real demons festering inside him, especially if drugs were involved. I am just wondering, what made him snap that badly? We're they both doing drugs? Did Matt start dating a girlfriend of his? What was the underlying issue that made him snap. Jealousy? It just makes me so sad. I remember when I was in elementary school and Matt would come to our school as a teachers aide, he was such fun guy, so good with us kids. I was only maybe only 9 years old when he came so when I read this I was in shock. And the curiousity got to me. I just want to understand..... which I'm sure everyone does.

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  22. When God wants you dead, you die.God can be creative in how he causes your death.

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  23. who cares how he died... does it matter.... why do you care... what happened is what it is... all you need to think about is the good times you had with both of them trevor and matt. none of the negagtive thoughts should ever be brougt up. only good times. R.I.P

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  24. Still can not believe that Matt is gone, He did not deserve this. I feel so bad for Ashley, she will never have her dad to walk her down the isle when she gets married. Her kids will never know what a wonderful grandfather he would have been. I miss you Matt so much. Cant believe all of you act like Trevor is resting, he will never rest. He is in hell. When you kill someone and then take your own life you dont get the luxury of going to Heaven! Trevor you took the easy way out. I would have loved to see the look on your face when you were in court facing all of us who loved Matt. The court room would not have been big enough for all of us. I dont know Trevor but I do know that if he was sick and family and friends knew this and did not help him then shame on you. If you know someone that needs help just help them, who cares if they get mad at you. It might save a life or two. See you some day Matt. I love you

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    1. JUDGE NOT, LEST THEE BE JUDGED THYSELF.

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  25. To the person above, Trevor is Not in Hell and Nobody saw this coming or we would have helped!
    Matt should have not been out messing with peoples wives, its been known that he likes the married ones.. oops wrong wife this time.. 3 to the chest, God bless

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    1. You are correct in that Trevor is not in Hell. My "Grandmonster" is Satan's assistant and she is too much a bitch to let a truly nice, decent guy like him in. He *IS* in Heaven. ♥

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  26. All of this hatred does no good. I knew Trevor from the day he came home from the hospital as a newborn. He was a funny little kid, he could make you laugh at the drop of a hat. What happened on that horrible day wasn't just bad for one family it was terrible for both. Both men were in the wrong and both died. I've loved Trev a long time and it would be easy for me to side with him and what he did and why, but that isn't fair or right. None of us will know the real "why", the true "why" of this horrible action. There were a lot of contributors that made this happen, not just one thing. I can tell you this, I will miss Trev's booming laugh. And I am sorry for the other family's loss too. A lot of people were hurt because of this, and for that I pray we have peace. I know these two men are no longer here and that is a sad exsistance for quite a few people. All the other junk that is said about these two guys is just junk.

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  27. It is very sad,it is all junk,I was a very close person to him great husband and father,Loved that guy,I party with him for years, ....yES He had some things in his life time as a kid maybe his family what he told me, there should of been some help back then. From the day he was born.His family was not there ,they looked another way very sad>

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  28. To the person above^ that is NOT TRUE! He had a great Family that loved him unconditionaly! we will always love Trev, he is missed dearly and we think of him every day.

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    1. I hope it is of no offence to Trevor's family, being as I was "just" a neighbour with whom he was acquainted, but I light a white candle in his memory every 15th January.

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  29. With all this we must FORGIVE!!!! Without forgiveness there is no hope. God forgave us and we MUST FORGIVE for that to be possible.
    I just heard about Matt's death yesterday and am very sorry for I have some lovely memories of him and his brother Mike riding in the back of my car with the window broken out-not many places besides Havasu that you can do that in the winter. Those two boys were so funny!!

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  30. Everyone is talking about Trevor, what about Matt!! He's the victim here... I spent 4 years working with him!! He was an awesome, outgoing person that loved his daughter dearly! Dumb ass people like Trevor that can't keep their crap together is waft makes this world stupid!! R.i.P Matt - I know how much friendships meant to you, sorry I couldn't be at the memorial service- to all his family: Matt lived you guys dearly and would constantly talk about you guys, know that he was an amazing, uplifting and very happy individual. The world is going to miss you Matt!!!

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