Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Pets Homeless After Murder/Suicide
"ROUND ROCK, TX — Round Rock police are investigating the shooting deaths of a man and woman.
"Police responded to a 911 call around 5:00 a.m. Wednesday leading them to a house on 3809 Bent Brook Drive off Red Bud Lane in Round Rock. Officers found the bodies of a man and woman inside.
"Teams of investigators have collected bags of evidence and computers. Three animals in the house, a dog and two cats, are now in animal custody.
"Neighbors have been watching from the sidewalk in shock.
"The identities of the victims have not yet been released. According to state tax records, Michael and Yoli Amr are the homeowners.
"Police say the investigation is still in the early stages. They say the deaths appear to be a murder-suicide. Officers found a weapon in the home."
From KVUE.com...
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jealousy, betrayal, despair, and madness
ReplyDeleteThat says it all.
Austin360 isn't the most appropriate place for "comforting people. Here is better. If you're here, you're likely looking for answers.
ReplyDeleteThis is what happened:
Michael and Yoli's loving relationship had been deteriorating for a while. Years? I don't know. But I began to know of Yoli's frustrations a little over a year ago. I learned Yoli wasn't happy with Michael. She said he was ignoring her and their marriage was taking on a nasty turn. She tried to get him to be more loving, but he wasn't interested. He turned hostile, and Yoli detached herself. She started looking elsewhere for companionship, friendship, and external support.
During this time, she found a man who cared for her. He said she could move in with him. This was her affair. She wasn't sure what she was going to do for money, whether she would go back to nursing, or maybe open a new restaurant. (Btw, she owned/created the recipes. Michael was a great chef, but she brought the recipes to their marriage.)
I admit, Yoli wasn't thinking straight. In fact, at times she was making a lot of really stupid mistakes. But I don't know how scared she was.
Then one day a few weeks ago, her plan was stupidly, horribly, and untimely revealed to Michael in an event that I will not go into detail here or anywhere public. He found proof of the betrayal and his world fell apart.
He threatened to kill the "other man." Yoli then withdrew from her support group. She spoke little the next few days. Sunday was the last time I knew she was alive.
I don't know when she died. I haven't spoken to her family, but she probably spoke with them. But I know Michael shot himself on February 23rd around 5am in the morning after he had already shot Yoli.
In response to the people that say I am wrong to sully Michael's name, I believe Yoli deserves better than to have her murderer honored. She was full of life and it's a tragedy she died the way she did.
While I know her side better than his side, I've seen enough of his actions during this time that I can draw a few conclusions.
I believe this was an American "honor killing". Michael grew up in a family where a woman's behavior gave or took away honor from a man. Although he was mostly liberalized, the seed of honor stuck with him as he lived his life as a successful man. He was financially secure (due to his partnership with Yoli) and had struck gold with a wonderful, charismatic, and beautiful wife.
But his honor was destroyed by her betrayal. To make matters worse, his public persona would crumble with the restaurant that Yoli was leaving.
So he killed her. But where in other cultures, an "honor killing" would not be followed by a suicide, and in fact may be followed with denial of the sister/wife/niece/daughter's existence while the authorities look the other way, Michael knew what he did was wrong. He was now a murderer on top of his disgrace. Cold, calculated, without tears, without remorse, he killed himself.
You can dismiss my conclusions as lunacy, or you can accept that I have some insight here and am choosing to share.
I am finally done with this, though. I've grieved enough, and said my piece. Hopefully those looking for answers now have them. Those seeing themselves in Michael and Yoli's story, please get help. It is a truth that people become jealous, and betray each other. They fall in to pits of despair and madness. "Everyone" was shocked by this murder-suicide, and it shows that you have to listen to your instincts and keep yourself safe.